Refletion1:Delete His (D:) Or Not?

Eva&Vicky:
Their topic which talks about whether men should watch adult videos when they have girlfriends is very interesting and novel. Vicky approve it; while Eva disapprove it. In their annotation 1 and 2, they find many sources such as 洪蘭's research. I think their topic is a little similar to my topic. The outcome will differ from country to country. So their annotation 3 and 4 can search information from other country.  What's more, it is better if they have media source which could support their opinion.

Justine&Joselin
One of their sources was written by an anonymous author, which was collected from a thesis website. But what interests was that  graph was similar with Joselin’s while we had two different analyses. And the mistake they both had was they didn’t find out the background of the author or writer of the articles they cited.

Emily&Claire
 During the conference, professor made them recall the process of preparing from the initial Issue paper to Annotation 2. After she listened to description, she cried out “that is so interesting. Considered it to be tough to work on at first since most people cannot accept it and it obviously has moral defects. Instead of finding a lot of references aimlessly and seeking supporting ideas in them, I had specific thoughts first and then go to find references to prove them.

APA:Delete His (D:) or not?

Delete his (D:) or not?

Influence In People’s Relationship In Adult Videos

Chia En Chen

National Central University

Author Note

Chai-En, Department of English, National Central University

This research was supported in part by a grant from National Science Council.

Correspondence concerning this article should be addressed to Chia-En Chia, Department of English, National Central University, No.300, Zhongda Rd., Zhongli City, Taoyuan County 320, Taiwan (R.O.C.)

Contact:eva19940115@gmail.com

Abstract

This paper would talk about adult videos in people’s relationship, like would people mind their lover watching adult videos when they get together or not. To explain this topic more, it would start from the connection between adult video and individual. According to Daisy.L Hung, the professor of department of neuroscience in National Yang-Ming University, said adult video is addictive, and provide resistance, actually it may reduce the feeling of happiness. And then is the difference of porn for men and women, afterwards would mention about the difference between porn sex and real sex. So if there’s really an influence to individual, how about in the relationship? Taipei Rescue Women Foundation, which researched the frequency of people in Taiwan watching adult video, and found that the rate was the highest compare to America and Europe. Final will introduce the situation of watching adult videos by different country’ survey to prove the point and then make a conclusion.

        Key words: adult videos, relationship

Influence in people’s Relationship in Adult Videos

How to prove that keeping adult videos would affect a person or more than couples? A website made by Daisy.L Hung, the professor of department of neuroscience in National Yang-Ming University. In the website she introduced her book which discussed about brain's every reaction. According to one of paragraph in this book, it talked about "people's addiction". 

“It mentioned that through some experiments, our brain's plasticity was related to dopamine. When our nerve received the instruction from cerebrum and then complete it, dopamine could let the nerve get more stable. Easy to say, the more dopamine, the connection of nerve would get more tight, this is the reason why we have addition. And once this kind of energy accumulate too much on nerve, it will cause an irreversible change, that means even people get rid of addiction eventually, brain will still memorize this influence.”

So my opinion is "sexual addiction" is without exception as well, I think people was addicted to watch adult video probably. 

Another point connect in above-mentioned paragraph, it said "Some people say that adult video provide people a healthy pleasure, can liberated from the sexual tension, however adult video is addictive, and provide resistance, actually it may reduce the feeling of happiness. People who addicted to adult video will long for adult video but don't like it; people who continued to watch adult video will think their lover were unattractive, and would rather watch adult video than dating with real person." It means that adult video may let people cannot tell reality from fantasy.

Cannot Tell Reality from Fantasy

When it talks about fantasy, what information adult videos will bring to people?

A video which I found on YouTube, after I typed "adult video" as my key word. This video wanted to express the difference between porn sex and real sex by using some vegetables or fruits to replace some sexual scenes of adult video which compare with reality life. And it was so popular that about ten million people had watched that.

The Huff Post, which has a live show, disgust some hot issues and has a channel on YouTube. Inspired by the video, HuffPost Live spoke to women working in the porn industry, and asked them to share their thoughts about the difference between porn sex and real sex.

In the video, they invited two women to express their opinions. First is Jincey Lumpkin, Chief Sexy Officer of Juicy Pink Box, mentioned that most scenes in adult videos made by posturing for the camera, flattering angles and cutting together of the scenes.
Second guest is Nina Hartley, an adult video actress, also agreed that it is very different between porn sex and real sex. "Pornography is a paid, professional performance by actors. It is a fantasy, it is not meant to be a rulebook and guidebook or a how to as a general rule. And it goes to show how poor our sex education is in this country that people are reduced to looking at an entertainment medium for information about the body", she replied to the host.

So even if watching adult video won't be addiction to everyone, does this behavior won't let people fall into the fictitious and porn world? After all adult videos are still commodities, a commercial practices, include many unrealistic and exaggerating content to fascinate viewer. So I convinced that watching adult videos could generate some over illusion.

The Situation in Taiwan

I found a news which said there is a group called Taipei Women's Rescue Foundation was going to have a survey. This organization wanted to know the mind of people who watched adult videos, so they asked for "adult-video volunteer" first, of course the volunteers were anonymous, and their job was watching adult video together, and then filled out the questionnaire. After their coordination, they convened a press conference, and showed the results about "The Situation of People Who Watched Adult Videos in Taiwan" and "Transnational Report about Watching Adult Videos". 

According to the data, the rate of the minority in Taiwan who watched adult videos was up to 90%, the frequency of watching adult videos was also the top among many countries. The research also indicated that the frequency of watching adult videos was higher, or the more exaggerative plots people who likes, it might influence the intimate relationship between couples more, too. Even caused their sexual life.

Base on this public inquiry, many people admitted that they were disturbed about they kept using adult videos over a long period time and tried to decrease the times. Despite men or women, watching adult videos will cause some fantasy illusion when they get together with their real lovers. For example, after they watched adult videos, women would want to see a naked man; men would like to have an intimate relationship with women.

A Survey from BBC

Here is another poll which researched by BBC. They surveyed 1,057 adults ages 18-24 about what kind of media they used when they were in touch with porn. And also revealed some data different from men and women.

According to the investigation, people who used free websites as an adult material most. Free websites were by far the most popular way of getting hold of adult material, followed by file-sharing networks, mobile phones and TV. Because pornography is easy to get everywhere now, for example, within a second there will be hundreds of videos, that's why people spend so much time on there because they think 'maybe there will be a better one' and they keep going and going. Just like Ian Barber, 22, from Manchester, who said, "Anyone who pays for porn these days needs their head checking because there is so much free porn out there."

Another result of research, almost eight out of 10 men said they had looked at porn on the internet compared with just over a third of women. The average man in the study spent more than two hours a week surfing adult sites, compared with less than fifteen minutes for the average woman. And a quarter of all men in the survey said they were worried about the amount of porn they were looking at, while almost as many said they were concerned about the type of images they were viewing.

And this kind of rate would really cause some influence.
1.Higher numbers of those heavy users said their porn viewing had upset a partner or caused them to miss a meeting at work.
2.Men looking at porn for at least 10 hours a week were also more likely to say it can put them off real-life sex.
3.Sixty-one per cent agreed it could make you less interested in sex with a partner, compared with 27 per cent of moderate users and 24 per cent of light users.

So according to above information about the influence of watching adult videos, although we are not very sure about that, adult videos are harmful to everyone, it is possible to say that adult videos might cause a problem in people’s relationship.

Conclusion

In my opinion, adult videos really do affect the couple's life, no matter people who addicted to adult videos or not. I think women and men will hopefully realize that they don't have to force themselves to emulate what they see in porn films. Fantasy is great, but the reality of sex based on one's own desires and separate from the pressure to look or act with a certain way can be even better. What’s more, someone would say that they did not care about their lovers who watched adult videos, so long as "can't let them know". But why? The truth is, if you went back to home one day, and saw your lover was watching adult videos right now, did you really feel nothing about this situation? This problem is closer more about not to conceal the thing you think your lover won’t care about. So I think every couples should really take watching adult videos serious because it might become your big problem one day. However, this topic is not only against on "man" watch adult video, is about your "lover" who need to watch adult video as before would might cause influence between your relationship.

References

Daisy.L.Hung. (2008). “Change is a talent from Brian”

Retrieved March 28, 2008, from http://www.ylib.com/hotsale/brain_change/guide.htm

KBCREATIVE LAB. (2013). “Porn Sex vs Real Sex: The Differences Explained With Food”

Retrieves July 29, 2013, from http://youtu.be/q64hTNEj6KQ

HuffPost Live. (2013). “Does Porn Affect Our Real-World Sex Lives? | HPL”

Retrieves August 5, 2013, from http://youtu.be/gLnZBZopwZM

ETToday News. (2012) “Women in Taiwan like naked body, men want to have sex after watching adult video”

Retrieves May 10, 2012, from http://www.ettoday.net/news/20120510/45310.htm

ETToday News. (2012) “People in Taiwan love to watch adult video but didn’t have happy sex life”

Retrieves May 10, 2012, from http://www.ettoday.net/news/20120510/45431.htm

Jim Reed. (2011) “Men 'worried' about heavy internet porn use”

Retrieved April 21, 2011, from http://www.bbc.co.uk/newsbeat/12918531

Transcription3: Delete His (D:) or not?

Eva: 

Hi, everyone, my name is Eva and she is Vicky, first I want to tell everyone take easy, forget about something related to abortion. Let’s enjoy some easy topic. Monica, what is in your d drive? there are homework, music and some picture!

Roger I want to know what is in your d drive.

Allisa: 

videos games.

Roger: 

yes, videos games, movies.

Eva: 

yes, you got it, our topic is about ….adult video!!!!!

Vicky: 

that is our topic. In Taiwan, most male would put the adult videos in their d drive, most is the male. And I will tell you a story about my friend. I have two friends and they are couples. One day they have an argue later they broke up in a few days. The reason is because one day girl found that there are some adult films in the boy’s cellphone, and she couldn’t understand. So she asked her boyfriend, and her boyfriend said why not? But the girl didn’t accept answer, after that, they had a furious fight, and then they broke up. So we are going to talk about do adult videos really ruin one relationship?

Eva:

In this topic I’m supporting side, because I think I do really care so I want to delete it. Although I am not a kind of girlfriend that really want to broke up with my boyfriend who watched adult videos. This is a kind of problem will appear in our relationship. Here’s my outline. First is about Porn in relationship, like some defect of watching adult video. And then I will show a video which is about the porn sex verse real sex. And the third one is the situation in Taiwan who watching adult video. And the last one is a survey from BBC. So now I’m going to tell you the defect of watching adult videos. Although someone will think adult video just an entertainment like girls will go shopping to spend their time. But in fact, I think watching adult video must bring some bad influence. Like first one, we know adult video is just a commodity, if you keep watching, it will cause an addiction, so it will make you couldn't tell reality from the fantasy. And next may influence you and your lover, like ignore your lover just like keep going watch adult video and didn't want to date with your lover. Adult video is just a drama, easy to say, it is fake, so it may express wrong information about sex. Finally it will influence your life. When we talk about can’t tell reality from fantasy, I will show you a video. This is a video which about the difference between porn sex and real sex, and this video will use some fruits and vegetables to replace some sexual scene. And I want to show you another video, is HuffPost, they saw that video and they inspired by the video, and they spoke to woman who worked in porn industry and asked them to share what's the difference between porn sex and real sex. Here's the first woman, she called Jincey, and she is a sex officer in some sexual website. She said most of adult videos were by cutting and posing in front of camera. And second woman, she is an adult video actress in America. What did she said is “Pornography is a paid, professional performance by actors. It is a fantasy, it is not meant to be a rulebook and guidebook or a how to as a general rule. And it goes to show how poor our sex education is in this country that people are reduced to looking at an entertainment medium for information about the body.”

I want to talk about the situation of people who watched adult video in Taiwan. According to the search from Taipei Woman Rescue Foundation, the frequency of watching adult video in Taiwan is the highest rate in the world. But most of people in Taiwan were not be satisfied with their sex life. And here is another survey about after watching adult videos how people will change their behavior. Like this one, if you walking on the road, and saw sexy woman or handsome boy, you will watch their bottom first, and more want to have sex with them.

Final I will talk another survey which surveyed 1,057 adults aged 18-24 for the research. So there is a result, the average man in the study spent more than two hours a week surfing adult sites, compared with less than fifteen minutes for the average woman. A quarter of all men in the survey said they were worried about the amount of porn they were looking at, while almost as many said they were concerned about the type of images they were viewing. Four per cent of men aged 18-24 said they used adult sites for more than 10 hours a week, a level which doctors describe as "problematic and potentially compulsive". And after this survey they found some influencing behavior. Higher numbers of those heavy users said their porn viewing had upset a partner or caused them to miss a meeting at work. Men looking at porn for at least 10 hours a week were also more likely to say it can put them off real-life sex. Sixty-one per cent agreed it could make you less interested in sex with a partner. My part is finished, is time for Vicky.

Vicky: My side is I don’t mind it so just watch it. First in Taiwan, most people post the negative tag on the adult videos. But, just like the picture, why so serious about this? And there are some reasons, the net pals in the PTT or discussion board said why they watch adult videos. It is that they need to vent their physiological need, because they are board, curious, adding desire and consuming energy. Next, it one tv show in Taiwan, hot issue, in this episode, it interview two couples who adult videos in their relationships in different ages. On the top of the picture, you could see us the elder couple, they are Cool Mom and Cool Dad. They are married for almost 20 years and have children. They would watch adult videos to promote their feelings with their children. Instead of forbidding them to watch adult videos, they would choose to let them watch and discuss with them to tell them the differences between video and reality. Below is the younger couple, Mia and Echo, Echo said that sometimes his needs are too frequent; he would download the adult video beforehand, and watch it to vent physiological needs when Mia was taking a bath. And sometimes his needs are too frequent, he thinks it is a problem for Mia, and Mia may not in a good or she didn’t feel well. There is one picture interesting on the internet, “Porn movie and Disney are responsible for the most frustrated human beings I know.” The girl thought that where the hell is my prince charming? And the boy thought where the hell is my insatiable whore? It is funny to compare adult videos and Disney, because actually it gives people the different meaning when watch it. People would think Disney is good for children because it is lovely. But if girl is too addicted into that she would just sit at her house and wait for the prince comes and rescue her. No matter what, if you are really addicted to it, it would still influence your life. Next, let’s talk about the exciting movies and adult videos. Sediq Bale, it is a famous movie in Taiwan. It has some cutting head scene I, so maybe when I watch it and one day I see Nod, I would want to cut of this head. And the fast and furious, maybe people watch it and they thought it is cool to drive fast and they would have a lot of girlfriend. And there are lots of fights and violence in transformation and the batman, people may thought it is ok to carry a gun and shoot everyone. There are the words from Tracy Clark-Flory. She said that “If porn can be damaging to relationships, it is, as with most things, often in our refusal to communicate honestly about it with our partners.” Therefore, even your lover gets exciting by watching adult videos doesn’t mean you are not attractive or they don’t like you. Trust your lover, he or she knows the different between what is reality, means you and the imagination, which means the adult videos.

Vicky: My conclusion is, it is not a problem. Even your lover gets exciting by watching adult videos doesn’t mean you are not attractive. Trust your lover, he or she knows the different between what is real and what is fake. Just like the funny picture, Jesus is watching you, even the adult videos.

Reflection2: Delete his (D:) or not?

After having a short presentation last week and meeting with professor, we found some mistakes we could solve before giving a formal speech.

1. Topic
Our topic is "Delete his (D:) or not?" but this couldn't let others know what we want to talk about immediately. So maybe we can add a subtitle like "adult videos in the relationship" below our topic. But we think this kind of topic will also attract the audience's interest. And before the presentation, Vicky and I would explain the topic first, and then ask some question about adult videos.

2.Outline
Before expressing our suggestion or point, we should let audience know what we are going to introduce. So before starting our speech, we should put an outline to make it clearly.

3.Sources
Every picture we used in the powerpoint, we had to put the website or below the picture to mark their sources.

4.Conclusion
I will go first then turn to Vicky, and after she finish her part, we will give a conclusion together.

Annotation4-revised: Delete his (D:) or not?

Source:http://www.bbc.co.uk/newsbeat/12918531

After my annotation3 which is about an american live show expressed their opinion about the difference between porn sex and real sex, here is another poll which researched by BBC. They surveyed 1,057 adults ages 18-24 about what kind of media they used when they were in touch with porn. And also revealed some data different from men and women.

According to the investigation, people who used free websites as an adult material most. Free websites were by far the most popular way of getting hold of adult material, followed by file-sharing networks, mobile phones and TV. Because pornography is easy to get everywhere now, for example, within a second there will be hundreds of videos, that's why people spend so much time on there because they think 'maybe there will be a better one' and they keep going and going. Just like Ian Barber, 22, from Manchester, who said, "Anyone who pays for porn these days needs their head checking because there is so much free porn out there."

Another result of research, almost eight out of 10 men said they had looked at porn on the internet compared with just over a third of women. The average man in the study spent more than two hours a week surfing adult sites, compared with less than fifteen minutes for the average woman. And a quarter of all men in the survey said they were worried about the amount of porn they were looking at, while almost as many said they were concerned about the type of images they were viewing.

And this kind of rate would really cause some influence.
1.Higher numbers of those heavy users said their porn viewing had upset a partner or caused them to miss a meeting at work.
2.Men looking at porn for at least 10 hours a week were also more likely to say it can put them off real-life sex.
3.Sixty-one per cent agreed it could make you less interested in sex with a partner, compared with 27 per cent of moderate users and 24 per cent of light users.

Although pornography in Europe is freer than America, like a red-light district, but this kind of freedom will cause some effect in younger or society.

Annotation4: Delete his (D:) or not?

Source:http://www.bbc.co.uk/newsbeat/12918531

After my annotation3 which is about an american live show expressed their opinion about the difference between porn sex and real sex, here is another poll which researched by BBC. They surveyed 1,057 adults ages 18-24 about what kind of media they used when they were in touch with porn. And also revealed some data different from men and women.

According to the investigation, people who used free websites as an adult material most. Free websites were by far the most popular way of getting hold of adult material, followed by file-sharing networks, mobile phones and TV. Because pornography is easy to get everywhere now, for example, within a second there will be hundreds of videos, that's why people spend so much time on there because they think 'maybe there will be a better one' and they keep going and going. Just like Ian Barber, 22, from Manchester, who said, "Anyone who pays for porn these days needs their head checking because there is so much free porn out there."

Another result of research, almost eight out of 10 men said they had looked at porn on the internet compared with just over a third of women. The average man in the study spent more than two hours a week surfing adult sites, compared with less than fifteen minutes for the average woman. And a quarter of all men in the survey said they were worried about the amount of porn they were looking at, while almost as many said they were concerned about the type of images they were viewing.

And this kind of rate would really cause some influence.
1.Higher numbers of those heavy users said their porn viewing had upset a partner or caused them to miss a meeting at work.
2.Men looking at porn for at least 10 hours a week were also more likely to say it can put them off real-life sex.
3.Sixty-one per cent agreed it could make you less interested in sex with a partner, compared with 27 per cent of moderate users and 24 per cent of light users.

Although pornography in Europe is freer than America, like a red-light district, but this kind of freedom will cause some effect in younger or society.

Annotation3-revised:Delete his (D:) or not?

Source1: Porn Sex vs Real Sex: The Differences Explain With Food
Source2:Does Porn Affect Our Real-World Sex Lives? | HPL

My third source is a video which I found on YouTube, after I typed "adult video" as my key word. This video wanted to express the difference between porn sex and real sex by using some vegetables like cucumbers, papayas, and bananas to replace some sexual scenes of adult video which compare with reality life. And it was so popular that about ten million
people had watched that.

The Huff Post, which has a live show, disgust some hot issues and has a channel on YouTube. Inspired by the video, HuffPost Live spoke to women working in the porn industry, and asked them to share their thoughts about the difference between porn sex and real sex.

In the video, they invited two women to express their opinions. First is Jincey Lumpkin, Chief Sexy Officer of Juicy Pink Box, mentioned that most scenes in adult videos made by posturing for the camera, flattering angles and cutting together of the scenes. All of them, if reenacted by normal people, can "take away sometimes from the pleasure and enjoyment aspect" of their sexual experiences.

Second guest is Nina Hartley, an adult video actress, also agreed that it is very different between porn sex and real sex. "Pornography is a paid, professional performance by actors. It is a fantasy, it is not meant to be a rulebook and guidebook or a how to as a general rule. And it goes to show how poor our sex education is in this country that people are reduced to looking at an entertainment medium for information about the body", she replied to the host.

So I think women and men will hopefully realize that they don't have to force themselves to emulate what they see in porn films. Fantasy is great, but the reality of sex based on one's own desires and separate from the pressure to look or act with a certain way can be even better.